Posts tagged patriarchy
Posts tagged patriarchy
“This is going to take some getting used to.”
“Give me a break; this is hard for me.”
“I’m really trying; it’s not easy.”
Yes, I’m sure it’s really fucking difficult for you to get used to calling me by a different name, using…
bell hooks, The Will To Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love (via museumouth)
on point as usual.
I hate heels and pantyhose, but if I’m in an office job where I need to wear said things, I’ma fucking wear them and devote my attention to other areas, where I won’t go mad. I’m going to lobby for reproductive rights as much as I can, while still waxing my eyebrows and wearing make-up. Its about the battles you pick, not about ideological purity. It doesn’t make you any less of a feminist for supporting a patriarchal institution.
The personal is political, but you know what? Its also not. That’s a recipe for going mad; expecting everyone to live like that. You can willingly engage in the system and still retain your integrity, because you are just one person, and what can you really fucking do?
The analogy I always think of is the debate that black woman have over “going natural”. Yeah, the enormous pressure to get straight hair is political; no doubt about it. The dominance of straight hair as the beauty standard is a product of our racist society, and it is a fucking crime that curly, kinky natural black hair is seen as “unprofessional” and “wild”.
Do you blame individual black women who still choose to straighten their hair? Of course you fucking don’t. That’s ignorant and rude in the extreme. You don’t know what went into that decision. You respect their personal choice and you keep your mouth shut — but that can’t extend to being willfully ignorant of the political dynamic how this particular beauty standard evolved.
Criticize the institution, not the individual.
Wax your vag or don’t wax your vag, good for you. So long as we don’t shy away from truthfully examining the institution of vag-waxage.
Feminism: The Hammer You Need to Smash Patriarchy
“You know you’re working in a patriarchal society when the word feminist has a weird connotation.” - Ellen Page
And you thought gender binary wasn’t as harmful as we made it sound.
I feel like screaming.
Shit. The child is six. And the child got stabbed in the neck for not conforming to cultural norms of masculinity. This is why the culture we have around sex and gender is poisonous. We construct masculinity as desirable and femininity as degrading. We construct the binary genders as absolute and opposite. We construct gender around the presence of certain symptoms that we have constructed into a concept called ‘sex’. And we punish people for stepping outside these things, no matter how young. Last year a child of 16 months was killed because an adult felt that the child, assigned male, was behaving more like a girl. At these sorts of ages, in an ideal world, children should be able to allow their identities to develop without kyriarchy getting in the way.
Shut the fuck up, binarists. Cissexists. Heterosexists. Transhaters. Misogynists. Essentialists. Shut the fuck up, and realise that you and the children you are socialising into your violent kyriarchal world are hurting others and being hurt yourselves.
i have no words.