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What I want to talk about is how emotional outbursts typically more associated with men (shouting, expressing anger openly) are given a pass in public discourse in a way that emotional outbursts typically more associated with women (crying, “getting upset”) are stigmatized.

I wish to dispel the notion that women are “more emotional.” I don’t think we are. I think that the emotions women stereotypically express are what men call “emotions,” and the emotions that men typically express are somehow considered by men to be something else.

This is incorrect. Anger? EMOTION. Hate? EMOTION. Resorting to violence? EMOTIONAL OUTBURST. An irrational need to be correct when all the evidence is against you? Pretty sure that’s an emotion. Resorting to shouting really loudly when you don’t like the other person’s point of view? That’s called “being too emotional to engage in a rational discussion.”

Not only do I think men are at least as emotional as women, I think that these stereotypically male emotions are more damaging to rational dialogue than are stereotypically female emotions. A hurt, crying person can still listen, think, and speak. A shouting, angry person? That person is crapping all over meaningful discourse.

“When Men Are Too Emotional To Have A Rational Argument”   (via coreymarie)

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The feminist movement is generally periodized into the so-called first, second and third waves of feminism. In the United States, the first wave is characterized by the suffragette movement; the second wave is characterized by the formation of the National Organization for Women, abortion rights politics, and the fight for the Equal Rights Amendments. Suddenly, during the third wave of feminism, women of colour make an appearance to transform feminism into a multicultural movement.

This periodization situates white middle-class women as the central historical agents to which women of colour attach themselves. However, if we were to recognize the agency of indigenous women in an account of feminist history, we might begin with 1492 when Native women collectively resisted colonization. This would allow us to see that there are multiple feminist histories emerging from multiple communities of colour which intersect at points and diverge in others. This would not negate the contributions made by white feminists, but would de-center them from our historicizing and analysis.

Indigenous feminism thus centers anti-colonial practice within its organizing. This is critical today when you have mainstream feminist groups supporting, for example, the US bombing of Afghanistan with the claim that this bombing will free women from the Taliban (apparently bombing women somehow liberates them).

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When you peel back the layers of the anti-choice motivation, it always comes back to two things: What is the nature and purpose of human sexuality? And second, what is the role of women in the world? Sex and the role of women are inextricably linked, because if you can separate sex from procreation, you have given women the ability to participate in society on an equal basis with men.

GLORIA FELDT, attributed, Huffington Post (via klondikebar123)

Emphasis mine. Bamf. Perfectly sums it up. Cis men can walk away from sex scott-free, so why the hell can’t cis women be allowed to do the same? I’m not going to be a slave to my biology. No way.

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She said it so much better than I could. I wish I could hit some people over the head with this quote!

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Cynical Idealism: Right, then. Listen up, white feminists.


We gotta talk about this shit. I mean it. This has gotten completely fucking ridiculous. We cannot, not one of us, be doing this shit, and we cannot be let others of us do this shit.

Look, I hear you, SlutWalk is this fantastic idea, and you’re all super excited about it. I get it. Rape is bad, and victim blaming is bad, and we’ve found this flashy way to try to get the word out.

Only the way we’re doing it sucks ass. First of all, a whole lot of women of color really, really aren’t happy about our flashy new thing, and I don’t blame them a bit. They find no room in our happy shiny exciting fun SlutWalk movement for them. They don’t want to reclaim the word slut, because they get called it all too often. And so they, once again, feel pushed out of feminist demonstrations, as they have felt many times. And they have let us know. And we keep ignoring them. SW NYC organizers, instead of engaging with the critique or the women who presented the open letter to them, treated it as fucking damage control.

And then, at the SlutWalk itself, after white feminists have already ignored WOC and treated them as if they are the opposition or the ignorant public, some white woman goes around holding up a sign with the N-word on it. The only black woman in the organizing collecting was the one who had to ask her, ever so nicely, to please put it down because it was offensive. None of the white women around her bothered. And the white members of the collective and the white woman’s friends have gone on the defensive. There’s been deletion of comments on SW’s facebook, there’s been a member of the collective going around telling black women off for criticizing the sign in their own blogs, the girl’s friends are all insisting she’s not racist. The whole thing is a clusterfuck.

White women using that word are being racist. That quote, that line, is erasing of black women, and is racist. Defending the use of the word, trying to silence black women talking about that sign, trying to tell black women they should just understand and stop making such a fuss is fucking well racist. And after all that, calling on black women to be in solidarity with white women on feminist issues? That’s racist, too.

The WOC on my Tumblr feed keep saying, “White women, come get your people.” OK. I’m coming. I’m making a commitment to telling off these racist white feminists, to challenging them, to calling them on their racism. I’m coming to get them.

And I’m declaring myself in solidarity with black women on this. I’m calling on other white feminists to do the same. Don’t ask black women to be in solidarity with you if you’re not willing to be in solidarity with them.

By declaring myself in solidarity with black women, I admit that they know more than I do about their lives and about racism, and I commit myself to sitting down, shutting up, and listening to them when they talk about it. I admit also that I am going to fuck up, and when I do, I will be told about it, and that it is my duty as a feminist and a social justice advocate to listen to that, to apologize sincerely with no explanation, and then to go educate myself so that I don’t make that mistake again. I will not ask WOC to educate me.

And I admit, no, I declare, that it is my duty to come get the white women who are being racist, and tell them myself when I see them, and not wait for a WOC to do it first.

I call on all white feminists to do the same. Step up, women. Be in solidarity.

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Woman is not the nigger of the world.

John Lennon is not the final authority on whether it’s ok to use the term nigger.

Quoting [B]lack men from the 60s is not a valid defense against critiques from [B]lack women, [B]lack feminists, and our allies today.

The term nigger is not “in the past.”

The term nigger has not, and has never been, a term that can be equally applied to everyone.

Arguing that [B]lack people don’t have a monopoly on the term nigger is just fucking disgusting. You want it that bad? Really?…” ~ Latoya Peterson, SlutWalk, Slurs, and Why Feminism Still Has Race Issues, RACIALICIOUS



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TW: Privilege Denying, Sign with Racial Slur


I removed the image because I though it might be triggering to some people.




“If SlutWalk has proven anything, it is that liberal white women are perfectly comfortable parading their privilege, absorbing every speck of airtime celebrating their audacity, and ignoring women of color. Despite decades of work from women of color on the margins to assert an equitable space, SlutWalk has grown into an international movement that has effectively silenced the voices of women of color and re-centered the conversation to consist of a topic by, of, and for white women only. More than 30 years ago, Gloria Anzaldúa wrote, “I write to record what others erase when I speak.” Unfortunately, SlutWalk’s leadership obliterated Anzaldúa’s voice, and the marvelous work she produced theorizing what it means to be a queer woman of color. They might do us all a favor now and stop erasing the rest of us for once.”

if you looked up “unexamined privilege” in some social justice dictionary, this is what you’d see.

Ok, seriously tumblr? Just shut the fuck up. Yes, that is a stupid sign/song/sentiment. Does it represent all of the slutwalk movement? Obviously not. I feel it’s also important to point out that nowhere in this post does the author give any reasoning for their opinion, nor do they cite any specific incidents or studies that back up their point. What I DO see here is the nearsighted knee-jerk reaction of “someone with a disagreeable sign at slutwalk? WELL FUCK THAT THEN, EVEN IF IT ESSENTIALLY CONFIRMS 99% OF MY OWN BELIEFS I NOW HATE IT BECAUSE OF THIS ONE SMALL CAUSE FOR OVERALARM AND THIS ONE OPPORTUNITY TO GET OFFENDED.”

geez. the point being made with the previous posts regarding this image is that the women participating in slutwalk need to examine the privilege they have in being white and identifying as sluts, a word that means different things to different ethnicities of people, and in different cultures. They also need to examine the purpose and privilege in being naked/less-than-fully-clothed in public and expressing sexuality. Hell, even protesting on the street with relatively little police harassment is a privilege only afforded to white people.

These are things that historically have been used to oppress all women but have also been used to oppress queer women and women of color even more. I do not doubt that the people participating in SlutWalk have the best of intentions, but the way they are going about protesting rape culture and a slut-shaming culture is far from inclusive.

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For every Harriet Tubman there are hundreds of thousands of black women who died as slaves. For every Sojourner Truth there are hundreds of thousands who were never able to speak publicly about their experiences.
Melissa Harris-Perry on the legacy of the black woman in America. She discusses the fact that black women are mythicized into these hyper-strong, powerful, magical beings that never need help and have the means to fight against all who oppress her. America likes to take a few figures and say “my, look at how strong, mighty and confident black women are!” and completely ignore the ways in which black women are dehumanized and degraded on a daily, institutional basis. (via newwavefeminism)

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